I asked on my Snapchat and Instagram the other day what makes you follow a blog and a ton of you said beautiful pictures, personal stories, and advice. So I’m taking your feedback to heart and getting a little more personal with you guys this year, hope ya don’t mind??
The other week Josh and I teamed up with Karly Ford Photography for a super fun and intimate couples shoot. The photos turned out ah-mazing and I figured what better way to share some snaps than chatting a bit about our relationship!? This post definitely isn’t a how to fall in love advice piece, but I thought I would chat a bit about what being with the same man for 10 years has taught me. Which is kind of a lot now that I think about it.
I feel like I’ve mentioned bits and pieces of our relationship in the past, especially in our engagement post, but to give you guys a bit of a refresh Josh and I met in high school during our grade 12 year after I switched schools. If I’m being honest, I was going through a really hard time with my parents divorce so I thought that getting into a new relationship would be the perfect distraction. Little did I know it was the person I got into a relationship with that helped get me through that difficult time and would end up being my husband 10 years later. Who knew!?
Being only 17 when we started dating I think it’s safe to say that we were babies. At that young age I was super insecure while Josh was, how do I put this nicely? Immature haha. We’ve gone through so many ups and downs, as many couples do, but at the end of the day we really have grown up together and have always made a choice to work on our relationship which I think is one of the biggest things I’ve learned…
1. Being in a relationship is a choice.
One thing my Dad always said was “Lyndsey, life is choices”, which seems so obvious and simple but the older I get the more I see the power in that statement. It can be applied to every aspect of our life as everything we’ve done or want to do is a choice. Just like being in a relationship- if you find someone that you don’t click with you make that choice to go your separate ways. But if you find someone that you do click with and want to spend the rest of your life with, you need to make the choice to work on it. You need to make a choice to savour the good times and work through the bad times, it’s not always easy but if they’re you’re human it’s SO worth it!
Being an only child, compromise has been (and still is) a huge lesson for me. Having no siblings to share life with, compromising my wants and needs with someone else wasn’t exactly in my relationship vocabulary. While Josh on the other hand, grew up with two siblings and was used to making those compromises. So yes I’ll admit it, he’s better at it than me. I won’t bore you with specifics but it wasn’t until we started living together that I realized a lot more sacrifices on both ends had to be made. Whether it’s big or small, the most important thing is that when you’re making a compromise you’re working toward an agreement together and at the end of the day that kind of teamwork just makes you stronger.
3. Two is better than one.
I’m not super big into horoscopes but a little while ago I came across one online and my curiosity got the best of me and I ended up reading my little heart out. I’m a cancer and Josh is a gemini so according to the article we couldn’t be more opposite, which is actually pretty true. The one thing I took away from it was that although we have our differences, if we started viewing each other as allies we both bring something to the table that the other is lacking. Which brings me to my next lesson- two is better than one. Josh and I butt heads from time to time (or all the time haha) but it’s when we put our differences aside and lean on each other that we really do make a great team and so far our season has been 10-0 ;)
4. Relax, and have some fun.
If you make a life commitment to someone, that is a very very long time so why not make it fun!? I’m guilty of letting life’s stresses get the best of me and ok, I might be a little uptight sometimes but luckily I have a partner that brings me back to reality. I think I’ve learned along the way that if you want to have a successful and loving relationship sometimes you just need to leave your sh*it at the door and relax!
And just because I couldn’t resist sharing, here are a few more photos from our shoot…
Photos thanks to Karly Ford Photo
There are so many other lessons I’ve learned from communication to patience but when I sat down and started writing those were the 4 that really stuck out to me and that I wanted to share with you guys! I’d love to hear your thoughts and if there’s anything you’d like to add feel free!
Happy Friday everyone!